I came to Singapore when I was 14. Spent the first 3-6 months frequenting the NLB, researching on topics of homosexual as I wanted to confirm that the physical and emotional attraction I had for a girl was nothing out of the norm. Over the years, I guess I just came to accept myself for who I am. Grew up attending Sunday schools, completing bible study classes, taking notes during sermons etc. Never the obedient child neither your delinquent.

Never really had a come out story. I brought my first gf home when I was 17 and that just explains it all. No drama, nothing. Am guessing that it’s prolly due to the fact that I grew up like a boy. Cold war with Mum for 3 mths when she forced me to wear a denim skirt to church when I was 9 or 10. First family photo was taken with me wearing a tuxedo. Short hair throughout the years. Am glad for how my parents are somewhat democratic? We were brought up to know that we are responsible for the decisions we’ve made. No one is going to clean up after your mess. You just have to face it. My siblings are somewhat supportive, with my second elder sister taking the initiative to explain to my mum when she expressed her concern of my attraction towards female. I thank her for that.

From F&B to banking industry, I’ve had some form of discrimination along the way. But eventually, the quality of your work will speak up for the rest. Of course I’ve had seniors/customers with good intentions asking why won’t I try dating boys, why wont I try keeping my hair long/be more feminine etc. Eventually, they will see pass my sexual orientation and judge me based on my behaviour, work results, character. Essentially life is a journey and all of us have the same ending point. It is the journey that makes the difference.