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Written by sayoni   
Sunday, 03 January 2010 00:02

“Tsk, a few choice words was all it took to get your wrinkled, saggy titties in a knot.

Such a long diatribe. The reference to your mama didn't escape me. Did you have a knife at her throat so that she'd say only what you want to hear? Afterall, lesbians, esp the butches, are known to be more violent than any male.

I guess u ain't woman enuff to realize this. But the bitterness that u feel? Caused by ur anti-govt sentiments in ur other diatribe abt the Smile! campaign. Imagine taking something as innocent as a smiling campaign and turning it into some lesbian agenda.

I guess it's true: Butches have a lot of bitterness.

Oh, & go on. Delete my post. That's how predictable dykes are.”
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“Wow, what a bunch of baby-hating heterophobes.

The smile campaign is supposed to be a good thing. Trust some penis-envying butches to twist it into some political agenda to brag about their own sexual perversions.

It's just a feel-good campaign you motherlickers!

Oh, and that rant about the govt not accepting you abnormal-sex types?

The only reason you anti-govt traitors are alive is becuz of the govt. They built the hospitals & trained those doctors so that your (straight) mamas can squirt you outta their wombs. You coulda been born in some god-forsaken ethiopian wasteland and died soon after birth becuz of malnutrition. It's the S'pore govt that made sure you still breathe.

Sayonara dykes!

LOL!”
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Here are some common misconceptions that homophobes have of the lesbian community.
We have put together some existing resources to rectify these misconceptions.

  • Lesbians are abnormal.

For this myth, please read the article below. It gives an idea of how “normal” is defined.
http://blog.sayoni.com/2006/01/31/why-homosexuality-is-not-a-mental-sickness/

  • Lesbians are heterophobes (fear of heterosexuals).

No.
It doesn’t make sense to hate heterosexuals- being straight or gay is only a sexual preference. It does not make up your personality or character.

There are friendly, sincere straight people; just as there are friendly sincere gay people. On the other hand, there are also vicious, malicious straight people for their gay counterparts.

Lesbians also work with and befriend straight folks- both male and female. Contrary to what many believe, friendships between straight men and lesbians are possible.

  • Masculine lesbians are envious of the male sex organ- penis (penis-envy)!

Now this is trickier: Masculine lesbians are not transsexuals.

There are girls out there who dress like men; act like men and wish they are men. These are transsexuals. Many of them would be looking towards surgey or hormone therapy to change their gender from female to male. They are men trapped in the bodies of women. They love women- which means they are straight.

Masculine lesbians are a different breed. They are HAPPY being women and they love women- which means they are gay. Just that their dressing style and mannerism are tomboyish to varying degrees.

To add on to all these, masculine lesbians do not always fancy feminine lesbians. There are masculine lesbians who like masculine lesbians; feminine lesbians who like feminine lesbians. So, the butch-femme binary depicted in the media is not a universal rule.

Some lesbians use strapped-ons and dildos. But this does not necessary mean that they need the strapped on to feel good about themselves. The common myth is that only masculine lesbians strap it on- but this is untrue. As long as the girls like the feel of it, they may strap it on- regardless of whether they are masculine, feminine or somewhere in between.

  • Lesbians hate men.

That’s nonsense. We honor our fathers- for starters.

  • There is no place for lesbians in society and the family.

Take note that lesbians are a diverse group of people. Discrimination takes place easily when gay people are easily identified and when the people are ignorant and afraid of the unknown.

Therefore, lesbians who are very masculine i.e. wear guys’ clothes; get a guy’s haircut etc, may experience discrimination at their workplace. These days, there are many major employers out there who do not discriminate against sexuality. However, there are small companies with homophobic bosses around. Lesbians who are not “obvious”-not masculine to the core- they are generally able to work without harrassment. There are many lesbians who have gone far in their careers.

Acceptance by the family depends on a large number of factors, such as whether the lesbian is in the closet; how the lesbian navigate the coming out process; how religious the family is (especially where religion openly prohibits homosexuality); whether the lesbian is financially independent etc. There are many lesbians happily out to their families- with good acceptance.

  • Girly girls are lesbians only if they cannot find the right guy.

This statement implies that being straight is the original sexual orientation and that gay love is second-class.
When you fall in love, do you fall in love with the person’s sexual organ only? Is the sole reason for love… procreation? If so, without procreation, romantic love has no reason for existence? There are many questions that one need to raise.

We cannot deny that there are women who seek other women because they are “sick” of men. For that to start, these women cannot find sexual intimacy with other women distasteful- this in itself implies that she is not completely straight.

Relevant to this is “bisexuality”- people who like both men and women at the same time. For a good read, click on:
http://blog.sayoni.com/2006/04/10/bisexuality-the-scientific-perspective/

The statement also reflects a non-understanding of sexuality- that is, sexuality can change over time. For an insight, please refer to:
http://www.biresource.org/pamphlets/scales.html

  • Lesbians can definitely be “straightened”.

Lesbians cannot be straightened. When we talk about “being straight” here, we are refering to MORE THAN MERE BEHAVIOR. For example, sexuality takes into account your fantasies. Sexuality is made up of many facets- refer to part 2 of the link below for a list of aspects.
http://blog.sayoni.com/2005/12/30/sexual-identity-and-identity-development/

Secondly, reparative therapy (also known as conversion therapy), which some fundamentalist Christians have utilized to “change” homosexuals, can hurt. You can see what research has said from this short review:
http://blog.sayoni.com/2006/01/19/reparative-therapy-homosexuality

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 02 February 2010 23:39